Couples in my generation have grown up in a world where technology is one of the most powerful portals of communication. It seems as though as we rely on things like Facebook and our cell phone in order to connect with the ones that we care about. The problem with this is that we have taken it to the extreme. People are beginning to care too much about what is happening on their significant others Facebook page and cell phone inbox and not focusing enough on the relationship itself. Things can often be misconstrued as something else when it is not done or said face to face.
People today are turning to things like Facebook when they are feeling some sort of insecurity or jealousy within their current relationship. I know plenty of men and women who use the website as a way of investigating the activity going on with their current partner, the ex, or a potential future interest. They will obsess over a current status update, friends list, inappropriate comment, or the change in relationship. You name it, I've heard it. It is the most frustrating thing to hear a story that starts off with, "You'll never believe what he posted on Facebook last night..." or "She said she was single, and now her page says she's all the sudden taken and in a relationship". People, get a grip. If you're having an issue with someone, especially your significant other, don't assume or post things on the website for the entire world to see and be involved in.
I am in no way against Facebook or even the idea of it. I actually think it is an amazing way to stay in contact with the people that you don't normally get to see everyday. I have had the pleasure of reconnecting with old friends and family members that I haven't spoken to in years. On the other hand, if you're spending everyday with someone, it isn't always necessary to post your every move. I understand that it can be very easy to be sucked into the Facebook world, but if possible save some of those personal conversations to be had in person.
Pictures are another thing that can be often misconceived. For example, there was a time when I took a picture of my best friend and her boyfriend kissing after a giants game. The angle was of her back so you couldn't really see her face. She and I look alike from the back - given the fact that we are the same height and our hair color at the time was very similar. My ex-boyfriend saw the picture and questioned if I was cheating on him and posting it on the internet. Before you go and assume something is happening, take a second and breathe. If it's something that needs to be discussed, do us all a favor and have that conversation in person like a respectable adult. Not everyone needs to be involved in the drama of your relationship.
As for texting, this is a whole other issue on it's own. I'm not going to go too far into this but I would like to touch upon a couple things. First of all, the fact that people can be in a relationship but still find the need to scope out each others inbox and text messages just blows my mind. If you can't trust that the other person isn't as committed in the relationship as you are, then my first instinct would be to tell you that you two shouldn't be together. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you really don't have much of a foundation to build a happy and healthy relationship on.
Next, one of my absolute biggest pet peeves is the couples that will completely tune out the rest of the world and do nothing but text their significant other when they are apart. I understand that you miss them and sometimes things aren't as fun when they aren't around but you are missing out on a million other memorable experiences when you seclude yourself like that. In addition to that, the people around you are most likely bothered by it as well. It is no fun to talk to a person who has their hand in their purse secretly texting while trying to carry on the conversation. Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't text them... I'm just saying that people have gone a little too far with those texting fingers of theirs. Something to think about maybe!
Last but certainly not least, this falls under the Facebook category a little bit but I just wanted to remind people that it is incredibly hard to differentiate the emotion that goes behind a text message. Someone can say one thing and it can be misunderstood for something completely different. Be careful with the way you put your words into context. Also, save those intense conversations for a phone call or in person. Like I said, emotions don't play out when reading it on your phone... so if it's something important, save it for another time.
People today are turning to things like Facebook when they are feeling some sort of insecurity or jealousy within their current relationship. I know plenty of men and women who use the website as a way of investigating the activity going on with their current partner, the ex, or a potential future interest. They will obsess over a current status update, friends list, inappropriate comment, or the change in relationship. You name it, I've heard it. It is the most frustrating thing to hear a story that starts off with, "You'll never believe what he posted on Facebook last night..." or "She said she was single, and now her page says she's all the sudden taken and in a relationship". People, get a grip. If you're having an issue with someone, especially your significant other, don't assume or post things on the website for the entire world to see and be involved in.
I am in no way against Facebook or even the idea of it. I actually think it is an amazing way to stay in contact with the people that you don't normally get to see everyday. I have had the pleasure of reconnecting with old friends and family members that I haven't spoken to in years. On the other hand, if you're spending everyday with someone, it isn't always necessary to post your every move. I understand that it can be very easy to be sucked into the Facebook world, but if possible save some of those personal conversations to be had in person.
Pictures are another thing that can be often misconceived. For example, there was a time when I took a picture of my best friend and her boyfriend kissing after a giants game. The angle was of her back so you couldn't really see her face. She and I look alike from the back - given the fact that we are the same height and our hair color at the time was very similar. My ex-boyfriend saw the picture and questioned if I was cheating on him and posting it on the internet. Before you go and assume something is happening, take a second and breathe. If it's something that needs to be discussed, do us all a favor and have that conversation in person like a respectable adult. Not everyone needs to be involved in the drama of your relationship.
As for texting, this is a whole other issue on it's own. I'm not going to go too far into this but I would like to touch upon a couple things. First of all, the fact that people can be in a relationship but still find the need to scope out each others inbox and text messages just blows my mind. If you can't trust that the other person isn't as committed in the relationship as you are, then my first instinct would be to tell you that you two shouldn't be together. If you don't have trust in a relationship, you really don't have much of a foundation to build a happy and healthy relationship on.
Next, one of my absolute biggest pet peeves is the couples that will completely tune out the rest of the world and do nothing but text their significant other when they are apart. I understand that you miss them and sometimes things aren't as fun when they aren't around but you are missing out on a million other memorable experiences when you seclude yourself like that. In addition to that, the people around you are most likely bothered by it as well. It is no fun to talk to a person who has their hand in their purse secretly texting while trying to carry on the conversation. Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't text them... I'm just saying that people have gone a little too far with those texting fingers of theirs. Something to think about maybe!
Last but certainly not least, this falls under the Facebook category a little bit but I just wanted to remind people that it is incredibly hard to differentiate the emotion that goes behind a text message. Someone can say one thing and it can be misunderstood for something completely different. Be careful with the way you put your words into context. Also, save those intense conversations for a phone call or in person. Like I said, emotions don't play out when reading it on your phone... so if it's something important, save it for another time.
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