The exchange of the words, "I love you" mark a big milestone in any relationship. My only concern is that these three amazing (and yet extremely powerful) words are being tossed around a bit too lightly these days. Saying something like, "I love you" is a very personal experience and there is no specific timetable to be followed when it comes to saying it. With that said, I urge people to truly mean it when they actually decide to say it. Some people feel it's necessary to say it very soon in the relationship with someone, where as others will wait till they are 100% sure that they truly love the person they are saying those words to. Whichever one you tend to fall under, just be sure to understand and mean what you are expressing.
Some people tend to confuse lust for love, especially in the beginning part of a relationship... or, the honeymoon stage if you will. Due to this, they end up saying those three little words far too soon. If you're unfamiliar with what the honeymoon stage is, it's pretty easy to tell when a couple is still there. Just a few examples: the constant texting, pet names, lots of date nights, always well mannered and well dressed, the can't-keep-their-hands-off-each other kind of thing.
I've been in relationships that have lasted anywhere from a week long all the way to almost about 4 years... let me tell you kids, that stage does not last forever (and it's not meant to). Sorry to break out the bad news, but there is a 99.9% chance that within those first few months of dating that other person is going to be on their best behavior. As a result of this, you are not really seeing their true colors. Those kinds of things take time, and with time you will begin to see and possibly appreciate them for who they really are.
"Love is not simply gazing at each other but looking forward in the same direction."
Some people tend to confuse lust for love, especially in the beginning part of a relationship... or, the honeymoon stage if you will. Due to this, they end up saying those three little words far too soon. If you're unfamiliar with what the honeymoon stage is, it's pretty easy to tell when a couple is still there. Just a few examples: the constant texting, pet names, lots of date nights, always well mannered and well dressed, the can't-keep-their-hands-off-each other kind of thing.
I've been in relationships that have lasted anywhere from a week long all the way to almost about 4 years... let me tell you kids, that stage does not last forever (and it's not meant to). Sorry to break out the bad news, but there is a 99.9% chance that within those first few months of dating that other person is going to be on their best behavior. As a result of this, you are not really seeing their true colors. Those kinds of things take time, and with time you will begin to see and possibly appreciate them for who they really are.
"Love is not simply gazing at each other but looking forward in the same direction."
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