Last night my best friend showed me a few episodes of the new comedy, New Girl. I had never seen the show but could relate to a lot of what was going on. One of the episodes introduced an interesting topic to me, it's called backsliding. I had never heard of the phrase prior to this, but it made me realize how common of a problem this is today. It's basically when you break up with a person (for whatever the reason) and start to make progress in the whole moving on part... but eventually come across that moment of weakness and fall... or should I say "backslide" into the old pattern and routine with that person. Undoing any sort of effort and energy you've put into getting over that person. Whether it start with a drunken "I miss you" text, a late night booty call, or a long email about how you want things to go back to the way things were before.
Listen to me when I say this... If you got to the point where you felt that breaking up with that person was the way to go, than why would you want to try and rekindle something that you know is bound to fail again? Why even put yourself through that? I don't understand why the thought of being alone is so damn scary sometimes. Honestly, there are worse things in the world than taking on your day to day routine on your own. I actually see it as a positive, more than a negative quite frankly. Granted, I'm still in my early twenties and not everyone is in that age group but it's a little astounding that even people in their early twenties are freaking out over the thought of being single. I personally think it's healthy to be dating and meeting a lot of different people. This is the only time in your life that you really have that opportunity to do so. You've got the rest of your life to be married, have kids, and stay committed in a monogamous relationship. I'm all for that stuff, don't get me wrong. That's very much my ultimate goal later down the line... I just find it interesting how much people are willing to sacrifice in order to avoid going to bed alone at night.
There are couples out there who are blatantly wrong for each other... to the point where it's almost painful to be with around them when they're together. They are usually the couples who break up and get back together over and over again. I also know couples who clearly want different things in life yet somehow feel the need to force their relationship. There are those who are not on the same page when it comes to their relationship... For example, one wants to hang out 5 days out of the week and the other one is missing the single lifestyle. Again, they force it anyway even though they both know they aren't seeing eye to eye on their own wants and needs. I know couples where one has cheated on the other yet it's somehow justified and forgiven. I'm sorry but ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? If the relationship ended... do yourself a favor and let it end. Stop backsliding into the same old bullshit and move on with your life. Find someone who's right for you, regardless how long it takes to find them. That is all.
